Written by Conjurer Acheron on November 7th, 2017.
This is a follow-up to my post about how to judge if a spirit shop is trustworthy. Some of the information may be repeated for importance and relevance of the discussion. That article discusses how to determine if a conjurer is legitimate and trustworthy; this article will be discussing why you should even do that.
This is a bit of a personal article for me to write, which is why I am determined to stress its importance – I am saying all this as someone who has had the misfortune of working with companionship shops who were not clear with me and left me more confused and frustrated than before I started talking to them. Their information was hard to find, and, when the spirit arrived to me, there were numerous issues – and the conjurer was unwilling to help their customers if issues like this arose and was publicly very defensive on their website whenever anyone criticized them. I am NOT naming what shop this is, as this is not the important part – the way this conjurer acted is exactly what should have put up red flags in my mind. It didn’t, because I was too excited about my potential companion. Because of this experience, I think this is an incredibly important thing to discuss, and I see very little of it.
We will be as transparent with you as possible. Got a question about how I work? Want to know about my own practices, beliefs, etc.? Go ahead – here’s my personal blog, and I’ll answer any questions you have about anything that I do or believe if you want to send me a message. Wanna know about Lethe, too? Go for it. We want you to know who we are, what we do, and why we do what we do. We’re not going to walk you through our processes step-by-step in excruciating detail and we may not tell you every tiny segment of our own personal practices, but that doesn’t mean we won’t try our best to help you understand exactly what we do at Elysium. If we are going to work with you, we want you to understand what we are doing, and, most importantly, we want your trust. Giving vague answers and dodging questions is not any way to build trust.
Do not let excitement cloud your judgement. Conjurers are the ones who are responsible for your safety, because they are putting a spirit within your personal wards and could be putting you in danger if they do not know what they are doing. They are setting you up for a relationship that could potentially last a lifetime – and, if not careful, this relationship could end up being detrimental to you or flat-out abusive. Any conjurer who knows what they’re doing will be aware of this and will take steps to prevent this.
Refusing to research is like setting yourself up for harm. It’s like going on Craigslist looking for a roommate and allowing the first “nice” person to move in with you, and then they steal and/or break all your belongings and try to kick you out. Spirits can do this. Spirits are fully capable of harming you, your energy, and/or any other companions you have.
Here’s some reading for you:
- Here are some questions urbanspellcraft has come up with about interviewing your potential conjurer. These are very important to remember when working with a conjurer – but, before you ask them, have you checked their FAQ? We answered these questions right here, and we are willing to go into more detail if you have a specific question on something we said. I’m also willing to answer these privately about my specific practice.
- I link to this post all the time, but that’s because I love it so much – this post by hecaatia (who is now deactivated, and previously was one of my favorite blogs) is a really good read about what exactly a conjurer should be doing.
- Here’s a post about what to look for in a conjurer. Give it a good thorough read!
- This post is directed at conjurers, but it is also very important to read if you are considering working with a conjurer – these are the responsibilities we have to deal with if we are responsible, ethical, and legitimate. Consider if your potential conjurer is doing any of these things. Ask them about it. Here’s two more posts like this (here and here). Consider things from the conjurers’ perspectives helps to analyze if this particular conjure knows what they’re doing.
- Here’s a post called “Stuff I Wish I Knew” that I absolutely love – because the original blog was moved/deleted, I only know of Part 2.
We cannot give you a list of trustworthy shops, because we are not you. We cannot and will not try to determine who you should and should not work with. We cannot give personal recommendations, because the only good conjurers we both worked with have since retired from said shops. Instead, we want to arm you with the tools and knowledge to determine for yourself if you should work with a particular conjurer.
If you see a red flag, be wary. Do not willingly put yourself in danger just because you are excited by the listing of a spirit you see online. Do your research. Ask questions to the point where it’s probably annoying (trust us, we don’t find questioning annoying). Don’t work with anyone who gives you those red flags – or, if you’re curious about why those red flags are even there, try to get to the bottom of it. If a shop or conjurer’s reaction to you questioning them is to get defensive, hostile, and/or critical, avoid them at all costs. Their priority should be you and the spirits, and they should be willing to help you and resolve any issues you have at any time.
By writing this, we hope to empower our potential customers – even if they choose not to work with us. We want to encourage good practices in the community. As important as it is to be ethical shops, conjurers, and spirit workers, it is equally (and, perhaps, more) important to be discerning and critical customers. If there is anything you believe we need to work on, we want to hear it.
This post is also available on our blog.
It is important to remember that all the information provided in our Encyclopedia is based on our own studies, experiences, and UPG – “unverified personal gnosis”. None of this information can be proven to be factual, but we do extensive studies and cross-checking with multiple spirit workers and different members of the species in question to verify that our information is as correct as it can be. Our goal is not to “prove” our UPG, as this is impossible, but we do seek to give a better insight on certain topics based off our own experiences.